journaling

Journaling & Power in the Written Word

You’ll see it when you believe it.
— Dr. Wayne Dyer

When I was younger I kept a diary, and it wasn't until my late 20s did I revisit a regular writing practice. Since then I write in my journal almost daily. Writing is such an important part of my process. The written word helps me process what is going on with me internally, and helps me to recognize thoughts and belief patterns that best support me in that process.

My journal is a sort of best friend. It's a safe, and reliable place where I can share my vulnerability, the mundane day-to-day, my criticisms, my anger and resentments, the petty judgements and whatever else I need to get off my chest.  I always said to my sister "if something happens to me tomorrow, the first thing you do is grab that box of journals and burn the damn thing!" Not kidding. :)

It's only within recent months that I changed the pattern around how I approach journaling.  While it's healthy to get things off my chest, I realize that journaling also has the potential to keep me stuck in my old ways, dwell on old wounds, and reinforce limiting belief systems that don't serve me in the present.

Now that I'm kinder to myself, and more compassionate towards others, the words in my journal reflect that peaceful, softer state of being. And, not to say that I'm not going to continue to use my journal as a safe space to vent. I am just more conscious of how I process my journey through the power in the written word, in the same way I would in my thoughts and with my speech.

I notice and ask myself: Am I gossiping and dwelling on the past?  Am I kind to myself with what it is I'm still processing, or am I being hard on myself for how I've handled a situation?

In the same way that focusing on negative thought patterns reinforces the negative, the same is true for writing. Writing about positive things in my journal reinforces those very same things. This approach is a practice in self-love because it just feels better to me.

So, as I incorporate this new practice into my daily life, I make a habit of beginning my journal entries with  LIFE LOVES ME... and then I list all of the reasons.  Some of the reasons may not even be part of my present awareness yet. These reasons could be things that I want to have show up and experience.

I ask myself what it is I truly want and how I feel having already experienced it, or as if I already have it.  By focusing on the positive through the use of positive words, desires can truly manifest into the physical form in a very short amount of time. 

This practice reinforces my positive belief system that supports me on a daily basis. As I begin to feel better, life starts to reflect that back to me, and I learn to trust the process. So, in a sense, not only am I using writing as a self-care practice, I'm also using it as a powerful manifestation tool.

If you want to chat more about this, or you have any questions I'm happy to connect. Just send me a note from my Contact page.

With love,

xo SJ

 

Writing & Relationships

I started seeing Anne Berube recently.  She is a very dear friend, and also a spiritually-based Life Coach.  I attended her Happy Sessions group workshop last July, and that is where I learned about the importance of vulnerability in sharing our stories.  Along with some accelerated personal growth work over the past year, it was time to start seeing Anne one-on-one.   

I have a fairly dedicated yoga and meditation practice (and have for about 6years).  Not until recently did I experience a major shift in how I approach the relationship I have with myself and with others. As my spiritual practice and self-awareness continue to expand, so too does my interest in working with the subtleties around how I spend my time and my energy. This is all in relation to my thoughts and limiting belief patterns, and how I choose to respond to (what I perceive as) the negativity that shows up in my life. 

How do I want to manage my energy?  Who do I want to spend my time with?  What is more fun for me? What brings me joy? When do I feel good? When do I not feel good? When do I feel supported?  Not necessarily over thinking, but listening to what my heart knows to be true, and trusting my intuition. All experiences, good or bad, are opportunities to either grow or shrink. I am empowered to choose one response over the other.

I am continually reminded that it takes a lot of courage to show up to a workshop, or to delve into “your stuff.”  However, for me, it's part of what I do on a daily basis. The more expansive I feel, the deeper I want to go, and the stronger the desire to explore something new.

Those who know me well know that I carry a journal with me wherever I go. Writing in itself is a very important part of the relationship I have with myself.  I write down everything!  Love stories, significant events, details about who I meet, what we talk about, how I feel in the moment, all of my fears, insecurities and disappointments. Sometimes my hand can’t write fast enough for my thoughts, it’s so exciting!  Once it’s all on paper, I feel better.

Sometimes, if I go back to my entries it’s as though I’m reading someone else’s words. These journals are nothing short of a chronology of spiritual growth history. My journal is one place that teaches me that it’s completely ok to be unapologetically me. And, the more I journal the more this idea shows up in my life, and in my relationships.

Writing is part of my path. I never really thought about it that way until Anne pointed it out. She suggested that I share more on my blog as opposed to keeping everything self-contained in my private journal. 

These entries will never replace writing with a pen and paper, and I don’t necessarily plan to divulge all the nitty-gritty details of a first date, or share how pissed off I feel in the moment. I will save those for my journal. I know, right!? How disappointing! ;)  I do; however, plan to share my work with Anne. Her suggestion to write more here reminds me about vulnerability and the importance of sharing our stories, as real as they are.

I want keep things simple, and accessible and hopefully something resonates with you, makes you smile, or sparks a little something in that heart of yours.  

Love, SJ